Two Encore Sunday Sermons

Falling In Sex


A recent report said kids are having sex more today; many for the wrong reason: they’re looking for love. Wow – looking for love through sex is like panning for gold in aquarium gravel.  And it’s no wonder people are confused – our culture has mixed up sex and love so much the poor kids don’t know if they’re coming or going.

We teach our kids sex is dirty and disgusting – make sure you save it for someone you love.  OF COURSE sex is better with someone you love – so is eating cheeseburgers – but this double message confuses the hell out of kids – and most adults. 

To make matters worse, we call having sex, “making love.”  Spin that one around a few zillion times in peoples’ minds and you get what we’ve got.How many love relationships have we seen broken up because people confuse precious love with raging whore moans?  They feel so guilty about sex, they “fall in love” with someone who only pushed their hot buttons. 

We often fall in sex and then look for reasons to justify it. Reason #1 in society approval: love.

Most churches, schools, and parents STILL refuse to talk honestly about the difference between sex and love. They’d rather permanently lock them together, give kids organ recitals,  ignore reality, and preach about 1950′s morals at which kids rightfully laugh. We must teach young adults about the responsibilities and pleasures of sex.  One of the main responsibilities is to not confuse it with love.


You Don’t Have To Take Off Your Clothes


 WARNING: This post contains graphic descriptions of human sexuality. 

It may not be suitable for parents.

Condoms are distributed on request in my city’s high schools.  They seem to be bringing down the rate of unwanted pregnancies and venereal diseases no matter how loudly the parents are screaming.

“My little Susie doesn’t do THAT!” Right.  I used to know little Susie and she did do that – plus a lot of other stuff.  These kids aren’t getting pregnant and STD’s from the Tooth Fairy.  It’s time we accepted reality and help them make better choices.

People believe we have sex education in schools but what we really have are organ recitals.  A clear list of choices (including abstinence and “How to Tell Your Boyfriend “No”) should be taught early. One of those choices should be outercourse.


Although definitions vary, outercourse is sex play without vaginal, anal, or oral penetration.  Outercourse can include hot talk, erotic fantasy, spicy role-plays, sensual massage, bathing together, mutual masturbation, and dry sex (aka: dry humping or frottage).

Outercourse is simple, convenient, and free and can satisfy both partners.  But the main advantages are there’s virtually no chance for unwanted pregnancies or diseases.  Skeptical?  Think kids will just slide into “home” without rounding first, second, and third “base”?  Maybe.  But until they learn there are many other exciting options, we’re going to continue to get what we’ve got which is tragic.


Here’s an alternative sex practice I’ve never tried (because unfortunately, I’m abnormally large) but my favorite singing duet has turned it into a song.  Listen at your own risk.  It’s called “God’s Loophole.”

One Response to “Two Encore Sunday Sermons”

  1. E says:

    Here’s my comment:
    After attending a workshop recently on Raising Confident Young Women in 2018, the topics of body shaming, sexting, porn, early sexualization was not brought up.
    I did ask the presenter if was could address these issues and her response was;
    Thanks to sexting, teen pregnancy is down and teens are having less sex. My next question was isn’t sexting sex and doesn’t it lead to additional behaviors ie. lack of intimacy, shared images, devalue of young woman, ect.
    Presenter again did not think so but..
    GOP lawmakers passed a law in 2017 that if a 15 yr old sends a naked photo to another 15 yr old they could be charged as sex offender, given probation or do time?
    A young woman sent a nude image to bf and was given probation and had to register.
    I was told in NY , first time ‘youth offenders’ might go to treatment or to family court and not have to register?
    Varies state by state. Trumpeter and his gang? Decide on this policy to reduce loopholes? Only it hurts our children.

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