Fall in Sex

A recent report said kids are having sex at a much younger age today; many for the wrong reason: they’re looking for love.  Wow – looking for love through sex is like panning for gold in aquarium gravel.  And it’s no wonder people are confused – our culture has mixed up sex and love so much the poor kids don’t know if they’re coming or going.

I’ve said it before “we teach our kids sex is dirty and disgusting – make sure you save it for someone you love”.  OF COURSE sex is better with someone you love – so is eating cheeseburgers – but this double message confuses the hell out of kids (and most adults). To make matters worse, we call having sex, “making love”.  Spin that one around a few zillion times in peoples’ minds and you get what we’ve got.

How many love relationships have we seen broken up because people confuse precious love for raging whore moans?  They feel so guilty about sex, they “fall in love” – in their minds – with someone who only just pushed their hot buttons.  Humans don’t “fall in love” no matter what the movies tell you.  They “fall in sex” and then look for reasons to justify it – and the most society-approved excuse just happens to be “love”.

The most lasting love between people occurs after they discover they still like each other after months or years and have grown to want to experience life together. Chances of meeting a “soulmate” over the onion dip at a party where you’ve had too many drinks is equivalent to winning the Irish Lottery – of 1919.  But most churches, schools, and parents STILL refuse to talk honestly about the difference (and the non-relationship) between sex and love – they’d rather give kids ‘organ recitals’.

You still believe sex should never exist without love?  Well, you must never have masturbated.  A recent study said “93% of people have masturbated and 7% lied.”

We must teach young adults about the pleasures of sex and the accompanying responsibilities – the main one being not to confuse it with love.

2 Responses to “Fall in Sex”

  1. Bill says:

    You have love; you have sex. As you say, love is something you develop over a long period of time.

    You also have infatuation, which many people equate with “falling in love”. I’ve spoken to middle aged men and women who have left a spouse they loved because they weren’t “in love” with him or her and wanted to re-experience the thrill of being “in love”, ie, infatuated.

    Yes, I agree with you, they are deluding themselves, and how on earth are they going to instruct the children when they are so addle-brained themselves?

    Actually, many youngsters do have a handle on things; they engage in hookups–sexual relations with no emotional baggage. It drives parents crazy, but this is a case where the kids are smarter than the adults.

  2. Joe Belle-Isle says:

    Great Grandpa’s generation-for you young 40 yr olds, had to teach THEIR kids how to “Help” bulls and cows and horseys and piggy’s and all the critturs they raised to sell for food-screw. Kids grew up watching animals boink. “AND IT WAS GOOD!” Sayeth the Lord.
    A Biker freind of mine died last year. That family NEVER pulled punches when it came to talking about sex. From birth.
    When his eldest daughter came of age to start doing the monkey dance she had everykind of birth control available, and when the boy stopped by to bring some beer and impress his new girls Dad, Daddy started putting XXXXX-rated porno in the VCR. And watching the boy to see how he acted. Then he told him, “You can take my daughter out but if you ever hurt her (Which did not mean sex) you will disappear.” He’d been a grunt in the 101st Airborn.
    Something happenned and she had a miscarriage at work. For two days while that guy was drinking he never showed up at the hospital or called the house to check up on her. Since he had got her pregnant and she WAS 18, Daddy considerred that hurting her, not being by her side.
    I have never seen that guy since.

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