Archive for March 30th, 2011

Fall in Sex

Wednesday, March 30th, 2011

A recent report said kids are having sex at a much younger age today; many for the wrong reason: they’re looking for love.  Wow – looking for love through sex is like panning for gold in aquarium gravel.  And it’s no wonder people are confused – our culture has mixed up sex and love so much the poor kids don’t know if they’re coming or going.

I’ve said it before “we teach our kids sex is dirty and disgusting – make sure you save it for someone you love”.  OF COURSE sex is better with someone you love – so is eating cheeseburgers – but this double message confuses the hell out of kids (and most adults). To make matters worse, we call having sex, “making love”.  Spin that one around a few zillion times in peoples’ minds and you get what we’ve got.

How many love relationships have we seen broken up because people confuse precious love for raging whore moans?  They feel so guilty about sex, they “fall in love” – in their minds – with someone who only just pushed their hot buttons.  Humans don’t “fall in love” no matter what the movies tell you.  They “fall in sex” and then look for reasons to justify it – and the most society-approved excuse just happens to be “love”.

The most lasting love between people occurs after they discover they still like each other after months or years and have grown to want to experience life together. Chances of meeting a “soulmate” over the onion dip at a party where you’ve had too many drinks is equivalent to winning the Irish Lottery – of 1919.  But most churches, schools, and parents STILL refuse to talk honestly about the difference (and the non-relationship) between sex and love – they’d rather give kids ‘organ recitals’.

You still believe sex should never exist without love?  Well, you must never have masturbated.  A recent study said “93% of people have masturbated and 7% lied.”

We must teach young adults about the pleasures of sex and the accompanying responsibilities – the main one being not to confuse it with love.